so about 3-4 years ago i posted a blog on my myspace. some wise words that have helped many, but it has never made more sense to me than it does right now. so if you got the time, read it. it may help you =]
Einstein Love
Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. we miss out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words, for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man who loves you more. the best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance far enough to allow the person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. TO LET GO OF SOMEONE DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO STOP LOVING, IT ONLY MEANS THAT YOU ALLOW THAT PERSON TO FIND HIS OWN HAPPINESS WITHOUT EXPECTING HIM TO COME BACK . . . do not let the bitterness scare away your strength and weaken your faith and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it . . . you don't have to forget someone you love. what you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving. don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. if you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love. cry if you have to, but make sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. and when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.-einstein
From the video- Madea: Let Folks Go
" Pay attention to the voices, they will lead you in the right direction. get up and go on with your life, its alright to sit around be depressed for a min. cry about it do what ever u want to. but don't stay there too long. Here is what I learned from all these years on this earth. If somebody wanna walk out of your life, let them go.especially if u know u have dun everything you can do. you dun sat around and been the best man or the best woman u can be, and they still wanna go. LET EM` GO. what ever they running after they will see what they had in a min. but by then it will be too late. cuz u will sit there and half the time the people u sitting around crying and worrying about 2, 3 years from now u ain't even going to remember their last name. how many times u see folks somewhere you be like WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING, id been there id been like what was wrong with me what was i going through i must have been lonely as hell to be hook up with chu. [hahaha]
some people come in your life for a life time, some come for a season. you just got to know which is which. and u going to always mess up when u mix them seasonal people with lifetime expectations. they got people that were married with people that they were only suppose to be with for a season. and wonder why they are having so much hell in they life. that was a person that was suppose to come and teach u one thing, you didn't know it so u just fell in love. and now u wonder why u ain't got no peace no where u go. I put everyone that come in my life in a category of a tree. some people are like leaves on a tree the wind blows they over here they unstable, it blow the other way they over here, season change they wither and die they gone, that's alright. most people in the world are like that they just they are just there to take from the tree they just take and give shade every now and then that's all they can do. but don't get mad at people like that that's who they are, they ain' never gunna be nothing, that's what they were put on this earth to be what they are, a leaf. Some people are like a branch on the tree, you got to be careful with them branches too cuz they will fool you. they will get there and make u think they a good friend, and they are real strong but the min u step out on them, they will break and leave you high and dry. but if u find u 2 or 3 people in your life that are like the roots at the bottom of that tree you are blessed cuz those the kind of people that ain't going no where. they ain't worried about being seen. Don't nobody have to know that they know you. they don't have to know what they doing for you. but if those roots weren't there that tree couldn't live. a tree can have a hundred million branches but only a few roots down at the bottom to make sure its getting everything it needs. im telling you sonnie when u get you some roots hold on to them but the rest of them, let it go just let it go just let folks go."
sonnie: "aunt madea its not always that easy"
madea: " Ain't nobody say it was going to be easy but it will get easier once you learn to love yourself. when you get to a point in your life when u look at people and go, ok wait a min. you, or me you will make a decision. cuz when u telling folks to do something. I have never thrown nobody away. I have never in my life just thrown nobody and just went and said look don't bother me no more, I've never done that. what i do is just say look this thing right here, that's gunna cause a problem. cuz if we going to be friends and we going to be cool. you got to fix that. and if u don't we going to have and issue. if u see someone fix it. or even try to fix it. That's somebody that care keep them people around. that's a leaf that's trying to grow up and be something else you understand? but if you tell somebody that what you're doing is hurting me and I need u to stop and they keep doing it they don't care MOVE ON, LET THEM GO. no matter how much it hurts let them go. and it will get easier I promise, everyday it will get easier easier and easier. but u just gotta make it through, you hear me sonnie. and see u gotta learn how to be by yourself son people have to learn how to be alone I don't understand all these people OOOh I need somebody lord where my man, lord where my woman. that is crazy as hell. if u don't know how to be by yourself what chu going to do with somebody else. stop praying about it SHUT UP and WAIT. go work on YOU hell that's what that time is for to get yourself together. Id rather be in a corner by myself with a puppy and a goldfish. and be happy. than to be sitting around with somebody in my house im wondering what the hell they there for. you will be surprised the things people put up JUST TO HAVE THEM SAY THEY LOVE THEM. That's crazy I don't understand. I cant live in dysfunction, im sorry, I've done come through to much been through to much hell in high water. to come there and let you come up into my adult life. and when im suppose to be at peace, and give me all kinds of hell. ONLY 2 PLACES ON THIS EARTH YOU GOING TO HAVE PEACE THE GRAVE AND YOUR HOUSE. now if u cant walk up in your own house and you ain't got no peace some things wrong, some things wrong im sorry. people be rebuking satin ill be rebuking satin and beating the hell out everything that's up in there till they get out, im sorry. you got to go. this is mine."
